Friday, September 15, 2006

yahoooooooo

All upsets are opportunity to learn.

I feel pretty bad yesterday, now I feel goooood. I just found out that everytime I get upset, I will learn something.

Just read from a chapter of a book yesterday, growth is changing from old to new, from good to better. No need to beat myself out of it. :D

Saturday, September 02, 2006

On Love

Make a search on how Buddha teaches on the subject of Love. i post a few paragraph from different page.

The Buddha taught the following to his son Rahula:

"Rahula, practice loving kindness to overcome anger. Loving kindness has the capacity to bring happiness to others without demanding anything in return.
Practice compassion to overcome cruelty. Compassion has the capacity to remove the suffering of others without expecting anything in return.
Practice sympathetic joy to overcome hatred. Sympathetic joy arises when one rejoices over the happiness of others and wishes others well-being and success.
Practice non-attachment to overcome prejudice. Non-attachment is the way of looking at all things openly and equally. This is because that is. Myself and others are not separate. Do not reject one thing only to chase after another.
I call these the four immeasurables. Practice them and you will become a refreshing source of vitality and happiness for others."

The definition of love in Buddhism is: wanting others to be happy.
This love is unconditional and it requires a lot of courage and acceptance (including self-acceptance).
The "near enemy" of love, or a quality which appears similar, but is more an opposite is: conditional love
The opposite is wanting others to be unhappy: anger, hatred.
A result which one needs to avoid is: attachment.

"Love your enemy."
It doesn't mean love the person you hate. You can't do that. Love those who hate you.

Above paragraphs can be found here

The Buddha and the enlightened men and women who followed him are often depicted as motivated by love, but never as in need of being loved. Perhaps we have an innate impulse to love, while being loved is not required in order to be happy and free.