What not to buy

Last night, i was stopped by 2 policeman after turning into a road with a sign of "no entry".
Upon showing them my documents, one of them asked for a bribe over a ticket of rm300.

At that moment, i felt one hell of a dilemma, i don't feel like parting with rm300, but at the same time, i recalled an email circulation on policeman nows a day are being paid to make you bribe them and catches you right on the scene.

Somehow, i decided not to bribe, and he let me go. I thought about it over my bed, when the incident happen, i was really thinking about myself, what i may getting into and hoping for the best, which happened, instead of thinking about what's in between us, me and the policeman.

And i decided, i will never bribe anyone else because its bad for both of us. on his side, i am buying out someone dignity, and watering the seed of evil in him, on my side, it means i am not standing up and prepare to take the responsibility.

next time it happens, i'm going to educate him. But of course, if the other party is kind enough to forgive me, i'll gladly accept it. Good for both of us.

And heck i would never turn into a road with a no entry sign again, as i promise the policeman last night.

Does it begin with Want or Care

When you feel like being with someone, think about how it begins & the motivation behind?
Does it begins with you wanting that person? Want to have him/her by your side, want to posses, want to be related, want to feel good yourself...Or,
does it begins with care? that you want that someone to be happy, can count on you when needed...

Buddha teaching

Attended a talk at BGF yesterday, learn a few things:

• On all matters, we can decide how we would like to relate by asking "What's the origin ? Whats the property? What's good of this? What's the danger? How could we make good on it?"
• Know what am i meditating for.

Link to Ajan Chah's Teaching