A young man who feels miserable stare at a billboard that features a sexy girl with a phone number, reading the headline "Buy happiness for only 88 dollar"., he turns to the old woman beside him and asked, "If 88 bucks could buy happiness, is it worthy?"
The old lady smile, "Of couse it doesn't worth it, you silly guy, because happiness doesn't require a single cent to have it."
1. If i can truely accept myself for who i am, then there will be more joy. (why it feels a bit uneasy using "i" instead of "one" ?)
2. Attachment/craving to people bring some sort of disturbance in me, expecting someone to do what i like or hoping is like a burden, i'll just let others be themself, and stop expectation on others. Perhaps then I can move on faster and make wiser decisions.
3. Trying to impress others by not expressing myself doesn't feels quite right. Thinking about the difference between myself and others, and trying to change myself to fit in others doesn't sound like a good idea. Maybe being my true self is being part of others (i read somewhere else that everyone is one whole).
4. i did a dumb thing again, i judge someone from outside without taking the effort to communicate.
5. i don't need to be #1 among others(even my family) but myself.
I got some $ in my savings, which means i dont have to work for someone else to stay alive, i am thinking about how to use the $, especially in business. but what kind of business, i have been thinking here and there for few months, nothing concrete comes up, there's two project that i dip myself into, the first one is being abandoned half way, the second one seems shaky. I think i didnt address any problems or provide any solutions in the business, just an offering.
Which leads me to think, what is business? so far, i get its a form of trading, offering something that the perceive value to the customers is more than the cash they are paying. But what to be trade? what are others willing to pay for, what kind of business is to be venture into? with the commitment to work on it.... should i do something to get some income to keep my book looks better and more secure?
I remembered a story(real life) where a gentleman open a factory, that helps some africans housewifes to make cookies, creating a livehood for these housewifes, and sell cookies to the euro and US markets, pretty meaningful cookies.
Just watched a documentary on child prostitution in thailand, where kids from neighbouring country are being smuggered into thailand to work as prostitute or beggar, some were even being export to china, malaysia, and etc.... will i do something about it?
Last nite during the toastmaster meeting, a speech is given on the subject of "I am the light"
It means that you, or i, or we have the ability to touches the life and bring out the goodness or potential of the others.
Never really thought of that thoroughly, even i want to do portraits that bring out the happiness and beauty within others, and make them aware of that.
Have been thinking about purpose of life past few days, there seems to be a clash on what i want to attain and what i like to do, am pretty frustrated over it, the speech somehow becomes a light, maybe it'll lead to some clarity.
If you are in KL, you are damn lucky, coz you get to join the KL money and you toastmasters Club, Where the speeches given are mostly enlightening and empowering.
If you would like to experience it, call this number o12-3212938, ask for the location, date and time.
All upsets are opportunity to learn.
I feel pretty bad yesterday, now I feel goooood. I just found out that everytime I get upset, I will learn something.
Just read from a chapter of a book yesterday, growth is changing from old to new, from good to better. No need to beat myself out of it. :D
Make a search on how Buddha teaches on the subject of Love. i post a few paragraph from different page.
The Buddha taught the following to his son Rahula:
"Rahula, practice loving kindness to overcome anger. Loving kindness has the capacity to bring happiness to others without demanding anything in return.
Practice compassion to overcome cruelty. Compassion has the capacity to remove the suffering of others without expecting anything in return.
Practice sympathetic joy to overcome hatred. Sympathetic joy arises when one rejoices over the happiness of others and wishes others well-being and success.
Practice non-attachment to overcome prejudice. Non-attachment is the way of looking at all things openly and equally. This is because that is. Myself and others are not separate. Do not reject one thing only to chase after another.
I call these the four immeasurables. Practice them and you will become a refreshing source of vitality and happiness for others."
The definition of love in Buddhism is: wanting others to be happy.
This love is unconditional and it requires a lot of courage and acceptance (including self-acceptance).
The "near enemy" of love, or a quality which appears similar, but is more an opposite is: conditional love
The opposite is wanting others to be unhappy: anger, hatred.
A result which one needs to avoid is: attachment.
"Love your enemy."
It doesn't mean love the person you hate. You can't do that. Love those who hate you.
Above paragraphs can be found here
The Buddha and the enlightened men and women who followed him are often depicted as motivated by love, but never as in need of being loved. Perhaps we have an innate impulse to love, while being loved is not required in order to be happy and free.
When I join sales, I learned and used techniques in asking question. its called probing.
For an example, I seldom ask people a "close" question, instead I use "open"question. For an example of example:
"Can I come to see you next week?" This will be a "close" question, coz you can answer "Yes" or "No", in a way, rejection comes quite easily.
"Which day are you free to meet up next week?" This is an "open" question, leading you to an result I desired.
but Now, I feel its not good to probe with a open question, because its sort of not addressing one feelings, of caring what one really wants. If ones reject, it must have for a certain reason.
The ediot who spread this probing technique sucks, if customers are King, would you probe the King?
