Relationship

From Ajahn "The Super Monk" Brahmavamso #1:

Its not about my happiness, or the other's happiness, but us. If one lives on his own happiness, he becomes a self center person, wanting things to be done in his way; If one lives for other's happiness, and forego his own, he will be drain out of life.

Us is the relationship between, there no "I" or "you". Work on the relationship that bond us togather, everyone becomes more fulfilled and happier. Work on either side, someone has to loose away something.

What is the relationship? Ajahn,"When we are talking, the listening is the relationship, the being mindfullness..."

Haven't been able to understand it well yet.... #_#